“Help! My Baby Prefers the Bottle Over the Breast”

 

Bonjour Mamas!

Forgive me for the long break. but we recently moved and now, I'm unpacked and back! My lactation studies and the experience I am gaining at weekly breastfeeding support groups has taught me so much. One interesting lesson (or trend) is when Moms have challenges getting baby back on the breast after others tried to be helpful by bottle feeding. 

Sometimes, even when you’re doing your best to breastfeed, your little one starts showing a strong preference for the bottle. Maybe they get frustrated at the breast, fuss, or refuse to latch altogether. Mama, if you’re experiencing this, you are not alone — and it’s not your fault. 💛

Why Does Bottle Preference Happen?
Bottles can deliver milk faster and more easily than the breast. Babies are smart! They might realize that the bottle gives them an easier flow without as much effort. This doesn’t mean they’re rejecting you — it just means they’re adapting to the easier method.

What Can You Do?
✨ Pace bottle feeding. Slow down bottle feeds by holding the bottle more horizontally and offering frequent pauses. This mimics the slower flow at the breast.
✨ Try skin-to-skin. Spend time cuddling with your baby shirtless, even outside of feeding times, to rebuild that breast connection.
✨ Offer the breast when baby is calm. Right after a nap or when they’re sleepy can be a great time.

Remember, transitioning back to breastfeeding may take time and patience. You’re offering love, nourishment, and comfort no matter what. 💕

You’ve got this, Mama. 🫶

Let’s talk about something that still makes a lot of people uncomfortable - but really shouldn’t: breastfeeding in public.

Bonjour Moms! 

Why is it that feeding our babies the way our bodies were designed to is still something some of us feel like we need to hide? I remember the first time I nursed outside my home—I was in the backseat of my car, sweating bullets, using a swaddle blanket like a tent, and praying no one would walk by.

Why is it that feeding our babies the way our bodies were designed to is still something some of us feel like we need to hide? I remember the first time I nursed outside my home—I was in the backseat of my car, sweating bullets, using a swaddle blanket like a tent, and praying no one would walk by.

It shouldn’t be that way. Which is one of the reasons why I used images from my own journey on GoMilkyWay.org - to help further normalize breastfeeding for not only its necessity but for its beauty as well. Be proud and stop apologizing for it!

Here’s the truth: you are allowed to feed your baby wherever and whenever they’re hungry.

You are not doing anything wrong...or being inappropriate...or "distracting" anyone. You are caring for your child.  Here’s what’s helped me own my right to feed freely, sans guilt:

1. Know your rights

In most states—including Nevada—you are legally allowed to breastfeed in any public or private location where you are otherwise authorized to be. That includes parks, malls, restaurants, airports, and yes—even church pews.

2. Practice makes powerful

If you’re nervous, start small. Try breastfeeding in a quiet corner at the park or a mom-friendly café. Over time, your confidence grows—and your baby gets better at latching quickly, too.

3. Wear what works for you

Some moms love nursing covers. Others prefer loose tops, button-downs, or stretchy tanks. There’s no one right way—just what makes you feel comfortable.

4. Redirect, don’t debate

If someone stares or makes a comment, you don’t owe them an explanation. A simple “I’m feeding my baby” or “Thanks, we’re good” is enough. Your focus is your child, not their opinion.

5. Remember who’s watching

Every time you feed confidently in public, you’re helping to normalize it for the next generation. That includes your own baby—and maybe even another mom nearby who’s wondering if she’s brave enough to do the same.

Feeding your baby isn’t shameful. It’s natural. It’s nurturing. It’s love in action.

So lift your head up, take a deep breath, and do what you came to do: take care of your child. You are powerful, Mom. And you belong everywhere.

Proudly cheering you on!
Milky Way Maman 💕